I am not divorced, have never been, although I have been through a seperation, but I do have a certain outlook on divorce and being single again - my favourite tag line is "Each and every one of us used to be single before marriage!" so what's the big deal? But this divorce thing can, and sometimes does, destroy so many lives - why?
Because how you view yourself becomes your reality.
The way you think and feel about living your life after divorce is mirrored in how you're living life right now. In a nutshell, your life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. What you expect will happen, will happen. You'll either live up or down, to your own expectations.
What are your expectations for your life after divorce?
I know, divorce hurts. Let's look at your new life this way, whatever you dwell on most forms the world around you. If you look for the negative, you can find negative circumstances and situations everywhere. Negative thinking becomes negative reality. When you close your eyes and think about the future - Do you picture yourself as successful, content and happy? When you think of your life five years from now, how does it look and feel? Do you see the future as an exciting adventure or something to dread and fear?
This time of emotional upheaval more than any other, is the time to dig deep and find your powerful and positive inner motivators. Inner motivators begin in your memory and imagination. When you use your imagination to picture positive and exciting outcomes, you are more willing to come out of your comfort zone and take the needed risks to make a new life reality. Your imagination creates your possibilities.
Have you tried visualizing an exciting, successful, happy and content future? If visualization is new to you, you may be sceptical about using "daydreaming" to create reality. You may be saying, "Reality is reality and wishing and hoping won't change anything." Think of visualizing as planting seeds of content and success in your imagination. These seeds grow into goals and the goals into reality.
As someone who has many friends who have been through divorce, I'm a big believer in the philosophy that a person is only limited by her/his own imagination and willingness to take positive action. Your mind will react positively to the emotional belief that something you desire is already reality. You are visualizing an ideal scenario, ignoring reality as it is at this moment. You will be using your mental energy to attract what you truly want into your life. Focus all your energy on the positives you want, not the negatives you don't want. Your mind will work very hard to make visualizations come true. Your nervous system tunes into your visualization. When visualizing your new ideal life, you begin to stimulate your mind to take action.
Taking the appropriate steps, everyday, will help make your self-empowered and rewarding new life after divorce a reality.
Do you see the future as an exciting adventure or something to dread and fear?
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