QUESTION:
There are some members of my family that have a problem with alcohol. If they truly want to stop drinking, and they come to me, what do I tell them?
ANSWER:
The most significant thing that you could do for anyone who is asking you, is to diffuse their trauma about it. I would diffuse any labels. I would explain to them that all who are physically focused have this powerful desire to feel good. You want, more than life itself, because it is life itself, to connect with that which is your Source.
Some people are born more sensitive to that vibration. You said about them, "You're too sensitive. You let things bother you too much." They were sensitive to things that they felt that they could not control, and they did not know how to choose the thoughts that allowed the Source Energy to flow. The more the Source Energy didn't flow, the worse they felt, because they came forth intending - in a stronger way than others you might meet - to be Teachers of that flow of Energy. And so, they discovered that the alcohol or drugs diffused their ability to focus, and in the diffusion of focus, they allowed more Connection. And as they allowed more Connection - they felt better.
It is with very well-meaning intent that they have found that action, and - while it is not an action that I would encourage -- sometimes the respite of the alcohol or the drug is the only means to soothing that they can find.
I would not say, you are bad; I would say -- you are sensitive.
I would not say, you are weak; I would say -- you have this powerful desire to feel good.
And in the midst of not being able to find a way to control what was happening--
you found a way to diffuse your awareness of how you were feeling.
I see no solution in pushing against. The solution that I see is in soothing them back into their Connection; you don't demand them back, or condemn them back -- you appreciate them back.
I do not see a way other than helping them to understand the whole picture: "You've got Source Energy that is flowing to you and through you, and when you're allowing it, you feel great -- and when you're not, you don't feel so good." I would teach them about the emotions that are their Guidance System.
I would say to them: "When you think those thoughts of condemnation about yourself, and you feel all of that guilt or grief, or self-condemnation, you are, in that thought, holding yourself apart from the vibration and the thought of your Source. Because your Source adores you. And when you choose to hate yourself rather than adore yourself, you've set up a wall of resistance. And under those conditions, I don't blame you for wanting a pill or a drug, or a drink of something, to soothe yourself from that . No one, especially someone as sensitive as you, could endure such disconnection."
So, if we were talking to anyone who is wanting to relieve themselves of the tool that they had discovered -- that turned out to have side effects that they did not want -- the tool that was soothing their disconnection, we would teach them how to reconnect. But you can't do it unless you're willing to talk to them about Inner Being, about Source Energy, about Vibration. You must talk to them about Emotion. In other words, you can't do it by tippy-toeing around the Essence of who we all are.
People go to church, people are having metaphysical experiences all over the place, it's time to stop pussy-footing around the idea that you are Source Energy in physical bodies.
It's time to start saying,
You are Source Energy in this physical body, and the better you feel,
the more of who you really are is flowing through.
And the worse you feel, the less of it you are allowing to flow through.
And it's not being disallowed by Source --
It's being disallowed by you.
I would love them, love them, love them!
I would love them when they're drunk.
I would love them when they are high.
I would love them when they're coming off of it.
I would say, "It's alright. It's alright. It's alright.
You are valid in your reason for being here.
You are valid in your reason for this action.
I understand what is happening to you.
Let me talk to you about what I know."
"You are a powerful being," I would say.
"You are perfect in the eyes of Source, or All-That-Is, or whatever you're wanting to call that.
You are a creator.
You've come forth with very real intent.
And when you love yourself the way you are loved by Source Energy, there is nothing better than that."
That's the point I would make.
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