Words to Uplift An Addicted Loved One

QUESTION:
There are some members of my family that have a problem with alcohol. If they truly want to stop drinking, and they come to me, what do I tell them?

ANSWER:
The most significant thing that you could do for anyone who is asking you, is to diffuse their trauma about it. I would diffuse any labels. I would explain to them that all who are physically focused have this powerful desire to feel good. You want, more than life itself, because it is life itself, to connect with that which is your Source.

Some people are born more sensitive to that vibration. You said about them, "You're too sensitive. You let things bother you too much." They were sensitive to things that they felt that they could not control, and they did not know how to choose the thoughts that allowed the Source Energy to flow. The more the Source Energy didn't flow, the worse they felt, because they came forth intending - in a stronger way than others you might meet - to be Teachers of that flow of Energy. And so, they discovered that the alcohol or drugs diffused their ability to focus, and in the diffusion of focus, they allowed more Connection. And as they allowed more Connection - they felt better.

It is with very well-meaning intent that they have found that action, and - while it is not an action that I would encourage -- sometimes the respite of the alcohol or the drug is the only means to soothing that they can find.

I would not say, you are bad; I would say -- you are sensitive.

I would not say, you are weak; I would say -- you have this powerful desire to feel good.

And in the midst of not being able to find a way to control what was happening--

you found a way to diffuse your awareness of how you were feeling.

I see no solution in pushing against. The solution that I see is in soothing them back into their Connection; you don't demand them back, or condemn them back -- you appreciate them back.

I do not see a way other than helping them to understand the whole picture: "You've got Source Energy that is flowing to you and through you, and when you're allowing it, you feel great -- and when you're not, you don't feel so good." I would teach them about the emotions that are their Guidance System.

I would say to them: "When you think those thoughts of condemnation about yourself, and you feel all of that guilt or grief, or self-condemnation, you are, in that thought, holding yourself apart from the vibration and the thought of your Source. Because your Source adores you. And when you choose to hate yourself rather than adore yourself, you've set up a wall of resistance. And under those conditions, I don't blame you for wanting a pill or a drug, or a drink of something, to soothe yourself from that . No one, especially someone as sensitive as you, could endure such disconnection."

So, if we were talking to anyone who is wanting to relieve themselves of the tool that they had discovered -- that turned out to have side effects that they did not want -- the tool that was soothing their disconnection, we would teach them how to reconnect. But you can't do it unless you're willing to talk to them about Inner Being, about Source Energy, about Vibration. You must talk to them about Emotion. In other words, you can't do it by tippy-toeing around the Essence of who we all are.

People go to church, people are having metaphysical experiences all over the place, it's time to stop pussy-footing around the idea that you are Source Energy in physical bodies.

It's time to start saying,

You are Source Energy in this physical body, and the better you feel,

the more of who you really are is flowing through.

And the worse you feel, the less of it you are allowing to flow through.

And it's not being disallowed by Source --

It's being disallowed by you.


I would love them, love them, love them!

I would love them when they're drunk.

I would love them when they are high.

I would love them when they're coming off of it.



I would say, "It's alright. It's alright. It's alright.

You are valid in your reason for being here.

You are valid in your reason for this action.

I understand what is happening to you.

Let me talk to you about what I know."



"You are a powerful being," I would say.

"You are perfect in the eyes of Source, or All-That-Is, or whatever you're wanting to call that.

You are a creator.

You've come forth with very real intent.

And when you love yourself the way you are loved by Source Energy, there is nothing better than that."

That's the point I would make.

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How to fuck up your vibration

Let's bring it down to something that's easy to get your thoughts around for a moment. So, let's say that there are two people who have a disagreement that you don't understand, that are arguing in the parking lot. And as you walk by, you hear their argument, but you are used to things going well for you and you're not really interested..

And so, while you couldn't help but hear them, you wonder, sort of, how you even got there. You don't give it very much attention. But someone that you are with turns and hears them a little bit, and says to you, "Wait up for just a moment." Now, your natural instinct is not to get involved in something like this, but you have another intention, and that is to stay with the friend, or lover or mate, that you came with.

So, while you do not have an intention to get involved in any argument, in fact, that's not the nature of you, you do have an intention to stay with this person who has other peripheral intentions. And so, it turns out that the person that you are with has had a parking lot or two scuffles of his own, and is only peripherally interested, so he just stops for a moment and as he listens, he hears something that stirs something within him, and now he feels that he must take action, because he can see that the big one is clearly going to beat up on the little one.

And so, your friend now gets involved, and now you're involved. Now, somebody else comes, and somebody else comes, and before you know it, you have a whole lot of people that are, sort of, gathered around this issue that you really did not have anything to do with at the beginning of it. But the more you listen, and the more you begin to talk among yourselves, the more you begin to take sides. And then you can clearly see that this one is right, or you can clearly see that this one is right. And now, because of your involvement with it over a period of a few days or weeks or months, or years, it begins to feel very personal to you as you begin to really relate to the issue.

And so, you get these things activated within yourself. And so, that, in a very scanty way, is exactly the sort of thing that escalates into these culminations that evolve into world events.

It is my promise to you, that if mass consciousness were not involved, nothing could ever escalate to be something that is played out on the world stage. It would play out in the parking lot. But the more people get involved in it, then the more energy is around it, and then, the more large the events must come about.

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Live your truth

Live your truth. Express your love. Share your enthusiasm. Take action towards your dreams. Walk your talk. Dance and sing to your music. Embrace your blessings.
~ Steve Maraboli

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Go to your inner Happy Place

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Season, Reason and Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,

It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong-doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON,
It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring  you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

When people come into your life for a LIFETIME
relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. 
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
- author Unknown -

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